“My wife was working in the garden by that afternoon!” “Oh, when I had it done, I worked the next day and I was fine.” “Don’t worry… it’s a breeze!” ::::insert Morgan Freeman voice here:::: It was… More
Do most people have hobbies? Do you have a hobby? I have things I’m interested in, but I can’t really say I have any true hobbies and I admit, I am a little jealous of people who do! I spend WAY too much time “being bored.” TBH, I think staring at my phone is my hobby. And that’s not cool.
Is finding a hobby like meeting Mr. Right? It just happens? Or do you keep trying things out to find something that strikes your fancy? The latter method doesn’t seem to be working for me so far as evidenced by the cake decorating kit I used once (I’m fat enough without making freaking cake all the time! Also, I suck (receipts above) LOL)… the scrapbooking stuff I still can’t help buying (scrapbooking is so lame …lol)…. all my old camera lenses that are collecting dust (my camera is old and outdated– plus winter, and what would I even take pictures of that I don’t take with my phone…?)
I had a great discussion with my bff today about dreams after listening to this week’s Oprah Supersoul Sunday podcast and thinking… ‘Shit. I’m not sure I HAVE dreams! What does that even mean!?’ (As in the ‘hopes and….’ – – not the nighttime ones. I have PLENTY of those!)
Our talk got cut a bit short because of stupid work and life, but I’m still a little hung up on the difference between dreams and ‘stuff I want to do someday.’ I think the ‘stuff I want to do someday’ list could be endless!
- Swim around WILD dolphins (Don’t even get me started on those horrible ‘swim with a sad caged creature ‘experiences’)
- Live in someplace other than Maine, and then maybe someplace other than that!
- Travel to Europe, Thailand, the Philippines, India (maybe), Iceland, the Galapagos (will never happen), the Island where they filmed Jurassic Park (could happen but that boat ride is a DOOZY)
- Slide down a hill in Switzerland on that little roller coaster thingy!
- Be less fat
- Squish grandbabies
- Have a parrot (Also probably will never happen)
- Have a Jeep Wrangler
- Ride bitch with Lonnie on a Harley
- Sit in those cool recliney seats in first class with the screen in-between so when I annoy Lonnie and his Sudoku too much with my chatter, he can close the screen on me 😀
…..like I said, that list could go on….. and on……..
Dreams seem like they should be BIGGER.
The only “dream” I could come up with is that I would like to write a book someday. This is why I blog. I love to write and cannot wrap my head around the giant task of a whole book. My blog is my half-assed book.
Then there are daydreams. Are those dreams? My most common one (the one I fall asleep to many nights) is Lonnie and I living on a small island as caretakers of a small resort or estate. Catching fish with spears and digging for shellfish to catch our dinner to cook with stuff from our garden 🙂 No internet. Naps in hammocks. Occasional trips to civilization for supplies. :::::sigh:::::
I posted a pic on Instagram the other day yesterday touting the awesomeness of Ouai Wave Spray. I swear that shit is made of magic! I thought it’d be fun to write a post about ALL my favorite products! It’s also kinda fun to look back at these posts and see if any of my favs have stood the test of time. I found a couple photos I took probably 10 years ago for a blog post, or maybe even a scrapbook page, of Lemon Diet Pepsi (I don’t even drink soda anymore– and I don’t think this even EXISTS anymore!), The Cats Pajamas lotion (No clue when I stopped using that), Dove soap (Nope), and Cinnamon Crest toothpaste (STILL MY FAV!).
When I was in Nashville last spring, my brother took me to the boujee mall in Green Hills and I went into a Kiehl’s store because one of my favorite Youtubers, Jamie Genevieve, talk about Kiehl’s all the time. I picked up a starter kit that came with lotsa great stuff that turned my skin into a freakin’ baby’s butt! The salesperson was SO nice too and gave me a TON of samples, including a tiny bottle of Daily Reviving Concentrate, “a lightweight facial oil that keeps skin looking radiant all day.” IT QUICKLY outpaced the other stuff as a “can’t live without.” It has a hint of citrusy smell that is just a lovely way to start the day. My skin is DEWY and SOFT AF ALL DAY LONG!! It’s my freaking jam.Warning: It ain’t cheap, but you only use 3-4 drops a day, so even the small sized bottle lasts me about 6 months. Lonnie has jumped onto the Kiehl’s wagon since they have a great men’s line too, and his skin looks great!
Jergens Wet Skin Moisturizer: Honestly, It was weird at first slathering lotion onto my wet self, but once I got over it (ok… lying a bit, I am still not over it, it’s a weird feeling), I was HOOKED on super soft skin that lasts all day! I ALWAYS get extremely dry skin in the winter despite using every lotion I could try, but this year, I DIDN’T
for the first time in my LIFE! I alternate between the regular and the one that adds a little kiss of tan.
So those are the “biggies,” but I gotta throw in some honorable mentions…
Milk Cooling Water stick. I keep it in the fridge. Every morning I grab my Cashew Almond Milk (also deserving of a mention!), swipe my Cooling Water under my eyes and let it do it’s thing while I sip my coffee. It’s SO extra, and makes me start the day feelin’ fancy 😉
SPEAKING OF COFFEE!!! COFFEE!! I recently learned to like hot coffee and my mornings are just delightful these days. Sipping my coffee with lots of cashew-almond milk (no sugar), while watching a couple Youtube videos is the perfect ease-in to every day 🙂
Also speaking of coffee. My heart was broken (ok… that’s dramatic) this week. When Lonnie and I were away, a little coffee shop in Old Orchard Beach had Green Mountain Island Coconut coffee and it was DEEEE-LICIOUS. I NEED IT IN MY DAILY LIFE! ……..and I can’t have it. Apparently, it was a limited-edition release. I’ve searched everywhere to no avail 😦
UPDATE!! I found it in K-cups– I don’t have a Kuerig, but I ordered a pack anyway (LOL)!
I think I’ve rambled long enough! Gonna have to save makeup for another post! Here’s a little Jamie video because why not?
We all know social media is basically the devil, yet we all keep on comin.’ A year or so ago I attended a lecture discussing one of the dangers of social media being how we tailor our newsfeeds to match our beliefs. I struggle with this because I allow myself to get so worked up about some people’s posts because I genuinely cannot wrap my head around their statements! For example, someone recently posted that if I am ok with abortion, I also have to be ok with mass school shootings. WHAT EVEN IS THAT!!??? I ABSOLUTELY understand, and even respect, that some people have religious or moral beliefs against abortion. What I DON’T understand is the leap to drawing a parallel between the abortion and school shootings. In my head that is like saying, well if you eat peanut butter sandwiches, you obviously have sex with farm animals as well.
I have been listening to Oprah’s Supersoul Sunday podcast lately and there are a lot of discussions about cultivating happiness and peace within yourself. With these discussions in mind, I stopped listening to the news all the time. From there, I went on to delete the Facebook app from my phone and reduce my time spent on Facebook. I’ve had limited success with this because I have no self-control, but I HAVE stopped posting things other than Instagram and Blog post shares. And I went on a “hiding” spree.
But is that the right thing to do? Honestly, at this point I think I have more people “hidden” than not. If I am surrounded only by people who agree with me, sure, I don’t get all pissed off every day and that’s healthy for me as an individual, but at the same time…. Conversations can’t happen if we all stay in our own lanes! But… nobody is changing anyone’s mind about anything on a social media post. We aren’t there to have discussions and open minds. We are all there to grandstand and thump our chests in proclamation my “rightness” over your “wrongness.”
I don’t know. Stay on Facebook, see it all, and stay in-the-know about everything? Hide or unfriend all the people you don’t agree with and live like an ostrich with your head in a hole (Is that real? Do they really do that?) Quit social media completely (omg I can’t!)? All I know for a fact is that my husband, who also has strong feelings about topics and is glad to discuss them face-to-face, stays off Facebook for the most part and seems much more content. Of course, he is also an introvert…… but that is a WHOLE ‘NOTHER blog post!!
Lonnie and I did lots of driving and talking over our long weekend getaway. One of our topics was parenting. We started by musing about “good parents” and “bad parents” and how people who achieve the most success in life so often seem to come from bad childhoods. It almost seems like hands-off parents (for whatever reason…self-involved, substance use, emotional issues, hyper career-focused, etc.) build children with greater resiliency and ability to overcome adversity. So what does that mean!? We didn’t figure it out.
We discuss parenting a lot. Probably because we have never, and will never, raise a baby of our own and therefore never worked through the trials and tribulations of co-parenting as equals. I think equality is the main difference between step-parenting and raising a child together as biological or adoptive parents. No matter what your “arrangement” is, or what you PRETEND it is, one of you is “the real parent” who holds the power. It’s a rare person who can come into that scenario and put their ego aside for the greater good of the family. Lonnie comes very, very close. And I work hard to make sure he knows I value his input and opinion when it comes to decisions about the kids. BUT, while it is never really said out loud, we both know at the end of the day, they are my and my ex’s kids and we have all the decision power. Because Lonnie and I are humans, that does cause us some “issues” (pronounced isss-YOUsssss) from time-to-time.
I am fairly certain I would suck as a step-parent and when I divorced, I vowed not to enter into a step-parenting situation. It would be so hard to have no true parenting power coupled with the awareness that everyone involved, including the kids, knows it. There is no built-in bond like there is between a parent and child; so that bond has to be painstakingly cultivated while at the same time establishing a sense of order in the home. Not everyone is willing, or able, to create that tenuous balance. In fact, I would even bet MOST people aren’t able to make it happen because there are so many emotions and factors at play. There’s a reason “You’re not my dad!” has legendary meme status!
So, what is the answer to harmonious step-parenting? Well, we DID figure this one out!! There is no answer because there is NO SUCH THING! Humans are built to interact and have conflicts and “issues” and power struggles and trials and tribulations and “discussions” and ARGUMENTS! AND ALL of these seemingly negative interactions are actually positive because they are how we learn from each other to grow as people and enrich our relationships.
Have you mastered step-parenting? Failed epically? Kinda-sorta got the hang of it? Think I am way off base with anything here? I love a good discussion… argument… power struggle….